“Blue on blue, heartache on heartache
Blue on blue now that we are through…
Now the trees are bare
There’s sadness in the air
And I’m as blue as I can be”
– “Blue on Blue”, Bobby Vinton
Neglect to change the water in a fish tank, and it will soon cloud over. Depression clouds the judgment of abuse victims, in much the same way.
Causes of Depression
Depression is a serious illness characterized by changes in brain chemistry. Genetics, stress, major traumas such as war and child abuse, and medical conditions including AIDS, heart disease, multiple sclerosis, and lupus can all play a role.
Grief at the loss of a loved one is generally distinguished from depression. The first can, however, lead to the second .
Shift Toward Blue
With depression, we see the world through “blue colored” glasses, no longer capable of assessing ourselves or our situation accurately.
All our failings – failings we have in common with the rest of humanity – are magnified. Our defeats are remembered; our good qualities and genuine accomplishments, diminished in our eyes or forgotten entirely.
Because depression is a mood disorder, we are unaware of this shift toward blue. The world looks bleak. Our situation – whatever it may be – appears hopeless to us. Our lives feel meaningless. In effect, the water in our fish tank is cloudy, and we cannot see past the glass. Continue reading