“Shipwreck: the sun breaking through the clouds after a storm” by William Joy (1859), Photographer/Source Christie’s Auctions, (PD-Art, PD-Age)
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We close 2020 on a tragic note: the sexual assault and battery of a newborn by a 14 y.o. boy living in the same Florida foster home [1A].
Assailant Sexualized as a Toddler
The teenage assailant is thought to have been sexualized as a toddler, when his biological mother exposed him to pornography and engaged in sexual activity in his presence.
History of Prior Assaults
“If someone is predatory, they are going to focus in on someone that is vulnerable. Putting a young child in a situation like that is beyond shocking.”
-Pediatric Neuropsychologist, Thomas Dikel [1B]
The couple who fostered then adopted this boy (the Kleins); the non-profit responsible for overseeing child welfare locally (Kids Central); and the entity providing case management services (The Center) were all aware of the boy’s dangerous proclivities, since he had sexually assaulted other children.
Nonetheless, Kids Central and The Center continued to send foster children to the Kleins’ home. Continue reading
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Yawning newborn, Author Martin Falbisoner (PD)
“For unto us a Child is born, Unto us a Son is given; And the government will be upon His shoulder. And His name will be called Wonderful, Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace” (Isa. 9: 6).
According to the Centers for Disease Control, 8.28% of American infants (some 240,000) are born with low birthweight . Over 194,000 are born to teen mothers as young as 15 .
More than 5 in every 1000 will die in infancy – a rate 71% higher than that of other developed nations . Another 862,000 will be aborted before birth .
Approximately 40% of American children are born out of wedlock . 19.7 million (1 in 4) live without a father in the home . Continue reading
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Those of us who are “people pleasers” as the result of childhood abuse and/or domestic violence have our reasons. Deprived of affection, we long for acceptance. Often cruelly punished when we did not conform to the expectations of others, we fear rejection.
Saying “no” to a request is difficult for us. Putting boundaries in place, since it was never allowed, feels foreign and selfish. We may even have been taught that it was “unchristian”.
Unfortunately, “people pleasing” behavior is not productive in the long run. It is likely to leave us overworked and overwhelmed – often angry with ourselves for having failed to speak out. Over time, we can lose sight of who we really are.
Inauthenticity drains the joy from living. How then do we change this behavior?
Filed under Child Abuse, Child Molestation, Christianity, domestic abuse, domestic violence, Emotional Abuse, Neglect, Physical Abuse, Religion, Sexual Abuse, Violence Against Women
Traffic jam, Author Mario Roberto Duran Ortiz Mariordo (GFDL, CC Attribution 3.0 Unported)
- You make a left-hand turn at an intersection, with your signal on well in advance. The driver behind you stops in mid-roadway, and exits her vehicle to shout at you. You can see her in your rearview mirror, gesturing wildly. Puzzled, you re-examine your actions for several hours, in a fruitless effort to identify what you did wrong.
- The vehicle behind yours persists in tailgating. You can feel the sweat break out on your brow. You check and re-check your speed. Finally, the other driver tears past, and you breathe a sigh of relief.
- Alone at night, in a deserted area, you speed up after the vehicle behind yours repeatedly flashes its high beams. When you do stop at a lit plaza, the other driver pulls alongside to berate you. You are mortified, at a loss how to respond.
Admittedly, there are lunatics on the road these days. And all of us make occasional mistakes, whether driving or otherwise.
The truth is that we cannot please everyone, even when we adhere perfectly to the rules of the road or the rules of civil society. Unlike the rules of the road, of course, the rules of society are often ambiguous.
But the inability to please others is extraordinarily painful for those of us who are “people pleasers” as a consequence of child abuse. Domestic violence only adds another layer to our distress.
We long for peace, and try to achieve it through compromise. We twist ourselves into pretzels trying to please.
The problem is that we have deep reservoirs of undeserved shame. Our first assumption, in the face of any confrontation, is that we must be in error.
Since all human beings are fallible, we can generally find flaws in ourselves. These do not, however, justify abusive behavior by those with whom we come in contact.
This series will conclude next week.
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