We know, of course, that the child’s shame is undeserved; that children are incapable of informed consent, and the adult in a molestation situation is always the responsible party. This is not what the child knows. It is certainly not how he or she feels.
Thus, the many scars of sexual abuse. These can range from anxiety and depression to addiction and sexual promiscuity. Symptoms become as much a cause of shame as the underlying events which gave rise to them.
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24 responses to “Guilt and Shame”
Thanks, Lizetteh! The guilt and shame belong to the predator.
And you’re right! That’s exactly true. I love your writing. Check mine out too. 🙂
Only if the predator has conscience!
Though the predator may not experience guilt or shame, it is the predator — not the victim — who should experience those emotions. Many predators have a seared conscience and feel no regret over what they have done.
hope you are doing well.
I am doing mental health reblogs to increase familiarity with different aspect of the subject. Can you suggest me a post of your related to mental health that you would like me to share.
Thank you for asking. My website regularly addresses mental health issues in the aftermath of abuse. A few examples include: “Depression Rules” at https://avoicereclaimed.com/2014/08/17/depression-rules/ ; “Wrestling the Python” at https://avoicereclaimed.com/2015/11/22/wrestling-the-python/ ; and “Paralysis – Frozen by Fear, Parts 1 and 2” at https://avoicereclaimed.com/2017/07/23/paralysis-frozen-by-fear-part-1/ and at https://avoicereclaimed.com/2017/07/30/paralysis-frozen-by-fear-part-2/.
i’m sorry im replying so late, can i reblog wrestling the python?
Certainly. Thank you for expressing an interest.
Very well put, my Dear Anna! If at all, the Shame should belong to the perpetrator. As the recipient of many confidences, I know what many people, even adults, go through.
I know your concern for the abused and the wounded, Swami. You share the love of Christ w/ all to whom you minister. ❤
Thank You, my Dear Anna.
Very insightful post Anna. I admire your ability to be concise and to the point.
Many thanks, Stephen.
A much needed post. Like Stephen, I really admire how you never beat around the bush and convey what you want to in the shortest amount of words possible.
Funny you should say that (LOL). I, on the other hand, admire the lush and eloquent language of poets. That is beyond me, sad to say. But we all have different strengths. That is what makes the world so interesting. ❤
And we all have our different tastes as well. I most certainly do not enjoy complicated poems with rich language. What good is a piece of writing if only you( and probably a handful others) can understand it?
I prefer easy reads, filled with meaning. Like yours. ❤
Thank you so much! I am sincerely grateful. 🙂
You’re welcome 🙂 I’ve dropped you a follow ❤
Your blog has healing information, I support what you’re doing. Thank you.
Thank you very much.
Thank you! The more we raise our voices the more healing can take root! Great work here!
Thank you so much!