Monthly Archives: May 2021

Selfie Shame

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Dove soap bar, Author Felipe Micaroni Lalli (Dove.jpg (CC BY-SA 2.5 Generic)

Dove soap, a Unilever brand, has launched a campaign in Canada to highlight the extent to which social media harms the self-esteem of pre-teen girls [1A][2A].

The campaign derives from a survey which showed that 80% of young girls already by the age of 13 use photo editing filters or apps to improve their image before posting a “selfie” online [1B].

Instructions in Parenting

The soap company urges parents to “have the selfie talk” with their children, and explain how image manipulation creates unrealistic beauty standards [1C][2B].

How low have we sunk when a soap company must instruct us  in parenting?  And how likely is it that our children will do as we say, rather than as we, ourselves, do?

Increased Vulnerability to Abuse

The messages we send are getting through to our children loud and clear.  Only appearance matters.  You are not adequate as you are.  It is necessary and appropriate to present a false image to others.

These message not only warp our children’s ideals of beauty and damage their self-esteem.  They increase our children’s vulnerable to abuse.

Children crave acceptance and approval.  When those are not forthcoming from their parents, children seek them elsewhere – a fact of which online predators are fully aware.

That longing by children is the basis for grooming (the approach sexual predators take to induce a child to engage in suggestive activity online or risk a face-to-face meeting).

Children with low self-esteem have little resistance to the flowery compliments and false professions of love these predators routinely employ.

It can hardly be a surprise when our children fall prey to such ploys, if we have set the scene for them.

Outside are the dogs and sorcerers and the sexually immoral and murderers and idolaters, and everyone who loves and practices falsehood” (Rev. 22: 15 ESV).

[1A, 1B, and 1C]  Marketing Drive, “Dove urges parents to have the ‘selfie talk’ about harmful effects of social media” by Robert Williams, 4/21/21,

[2A and 2B]  Newswire, “It’s Time to Have the Selfie Talk – New Dove Self-Esteem Project Research Finds 80% of Canadian Girls Are Using Photo Editing Apps by the Age of 13”, 4/20/21,



Filed under Child Abuse, Child Molestation, domestic abuse, domestic violence, Emotional Abuse, Neglect, Physical Abuse, Sexual Abuse

Sexual Harassment in India

MeToo: Priya Ramani acquitted in defamation case filed by MJ Akbar - The Week

MJ Akbar (left), Priya Ramani (right), Image courtesy of The Week

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Earlier this year, an Indian court acquitted journalist, Priya Ramani, in a criminal defamation case by former government minister, MJ Akbar, for accusing him of sexual misconduct [1].

Ramani had alleged in a social media post that she was sexually harassed by Akbar in 1993, when called to a Mumbai hotel for a job interview.  Following Ramani’s allegations, over 20 other women came forward to make similar allegations against Akbar.  As a result, Akbar was forced to step down, though not before he filed suit. Continue reading


Filed under Abuse of Power, Justice, Law, Sexual Assault, Violence Against Women