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Child Brides

Child bride “Taketu”, married at age 14 in Ethiopia, Image Source https://www.flickr.com/photos/dfid/14727787123/, Image Author UK Dept. for International Development, (CC Attribution 2. 0 Generic)

The 2026 Annual Report of the US Commission on International Religious Freedom confirms that the forced religious conversion and marriage of abducted, underage, Hindu and Christian girls to adult Muslim men is an ongoing practice in Pakistan [1][2][3A][4A]. This occurs, also, in Somalia [11A].

Child Marriage

Child marriage, where one party is a minor, is common in parts of Africa, the Middle East, and Southeast Asia [5A]. Niger has the highest rate of child marriage at 76%, followed by Bangladesh at 56%, India at 47%, Nepal at 37%, and Afghanistan at 33% [6][7]. Over 700 million women in the world were married before the age of 18 [9A].

Negative Impact

“Girls married young are far less likely to stay in school, impacting their economic independence and decision-making, at higher risk of physical and sexual violence, and face more complications in pregnancy and child birth and infection with HIV/AIDS [8A].”

Child marriages are often arranged by family in impoverished locales where birth and death rates are high, and access to education and healthcare is low [9B]. Child marriage can be viewed as a financial strategy, particularly when exchanged for goods or resources to support other family members [9C]. Cultural norms play a major role [5B][9D].

But the impact on girls forced into such marriages is negative on many levels [8B][9E].

Islamic Law

There is no minimum marriage age defined under traditional Islamic law [5B]. In classic Sunni jurisprudence, the appropriate age for consummating marriage to an underage girl was determined by the bride, groom, and the bride’s guardian since medieval jurists held that the age of fitness for intercourse was too variable for legislation [10].

The Prophet Muhammed is reported in the Hadith to have wed his third wife, Aisha, when she was around 6 or 7 y.o. and thought to have consummated the marriage when she was around 9 or 10 y.o. [5C].

Forced Conversion

Pakistan and Somalia are two of the Islamic nations that have taken child marriage a step further [3B][4B][11B]. Here thousands of Hindu and Christian girls are either lured from their homes and families via grooming or kidnapped outright from schools, neighborhoods, and workplaces then coerced into converting to Islam through a combination of threats and rape [3C][4C][11C].

Police frequently take no action in such cases, while courts acquit the perpetrators on the basis of falsified age documents and statements claiming that Islam has been voluntarily adopted. These forced conversions and marriages are, thereby, given the color of “consent”.

The child brides have no say in the matter.

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[1] US Commission on International Religious Freedom, “USCIRF Releases 2026 Report” Exposes Egregious Religious Freedom Abuses from Key Nations”, 3/4/26, https://www.uscirf.gov/news-room/releases-statements/uscirf-releases-2026-annual-report-exposes-egregious-religious.

[2] US Commission on International Religious Freedom, “2026 Annual Report: Pakistan Chapter [Download]”, https://www.uscirf.gov/annual-reports?country=63.

[3A, 3B, and 3C] Maha Muni Modi, “Systematic Persecution of Christian and Hindu Girls in Pakistan under the Pretext of Religion”, https://www.mahamunimodiji.com/post/systematic-persecution-of-christian-and-hindu-girls-in-pakistan-under-the-pretext-of-religion.

[4A, 4B, and 4C] FrontPage Magazine, “Crisis of Protecting Minority Girls in Pakistan” by Faraz Pervaiz Rashan, 8/15/25, https://www.frontpagemag.com/crisis-of-protecting-minority-girls-in-pakistan/.

[5A, 5B, and 5C] Wikipedia, “Child marriage”, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_marriage.

[6] Child Marriage Data Portal, “The Global Race to End Child Marriage”, https://childmarriagemonitoring.org/.

[7] World Atlas, “Prevalence of Child Marriage Around the World”, https://www.worldatlas.com/articles/prevalence-of-child-marriage-in-various-regions-of-the-world.html.

[8A and 8B] Save the Children, “A Girl Marries Every 30 Seconds in Countries Ranked Fragile and Child Marriage Hot Spots – New Report”, 10/11/24, https://www.savethechildren.net/news/girl-marries-every-30-seconds-countries-ranked-fragile-and-child-marriage-hotspots-new-report.

[9A through 9E] Their World, “Child marriage”, https://theirworld.org/resources/child-marriage/.

[10] Brown, Jonathan (2015). Misquoting Muhammad: The Challenge and Choices of Interpreting the Prophet’s Legacy. Oneworld Publications (Kindle edition), pp. 3090–3110.

[11A, 11B, and 11C] European Country of Origin Information Network (ECOI), “COI Query Response: Somalia – Al Shabaab Forced Marriage” by Refugee Documentation Centre of Ireland, 2/13/24, https://www.ecoi.net/en/file/local/2106974/2024_02_Somalia_Al_Shabaab_Forced_marriage.pdf.

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Screen Time

Teen on cell phone, Source Flickr.com/photos/prefvotuporanga/14804623046, Author ASCOM Prefeitura de Votuporanga, (CC Attribution 2.0 Generic)

With smartphones, tablets, computers, TVs, and game consoles everywhere, children are being exposed to more screen time than ever.  Teens and tweens now spend between 5.5 hours and 8.7 hours per day on their devices [1][2].

This crowds out offline activities like art, music, reading, biking, hobbies, clubs, sports, gardening, hiking, camping, and volunteer work.

That is not insignificant.  Little wonder that an increasing number of schools are banning cell phones during class hours [3].

When children interact face-to-face with others, they are developing social skills that will benefit them in the long run.  When they move physically while learning, they are not simply burning energy.  They are establishing neural connections that enhance memory and understanding [4].

On the other hand, when children do not have sufficient face-to-face interaction with peers they may struggle to interpret facial expressions and body language, have difficulty making friends, and develop outright social anxiety [5].

It is well documented that screen time is, also, associated with childhood obesity and depression in children [6][7][8][9].

What Parents Can Do

Parents should, of course, set limits on screen time for their children and boundaries for content characterized by violence, pornography, and/or grooming.

Setting a good example can be helpful.  So can designating tech-free zones like the dinner table, and scheduling family activities that do not involve electronic devices.

There are now apps which assist parents with this task.  Aura, Qustodio, Norton, Bitdefender, Surfshark, and Bark are examples [10][14].  These implement time limits and block certain websites.

Brick is both an app and a physical device that allows users to better manage their screen time [11].  It blocks distracting apps and notifications, preventing mindless scrolling.

The Grayscale Mode can, also, be enabled on cell phones and computers [12][13].  This removes color from the screen, transforming color images into grey.  It is not only restful for the eyes, but makes images less attractive to the viewer.

As parents and concerned adults it is our responsibility to protect children from harm. That requires regulating their use of the many electronic devices available to them today.

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[1]  CDC, “Daily Screen Time Among Teenagers:  United States, July 2021 – December 2023” by Benjamin Zablotsky PhD et al, October 2024, https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db513.htm.

[2]  American Academy of Pediatrics, “Average Amount of Screen Time for Children and Young Adults”, https://www.aap.org/en/patient-care/media-and-children/center-of-excellence-on-social-media-and-youth-mental-health/qa-portal/qa-portal-library/qa-portal-library-questions/average-amounts-of-screen-time/.

[3]  ABC News, “Here are the states banning cell phones in schools and what it means for students” by Arthur Jones II and Aidan Gellert, 9/15/25, https://abcnews.com/Politics/states-banning-cellphones-schools/story?id=125515186.

[4]  Kids Mental Health, “Fun Health Activities that Actually Get Kids Excited about Wellness” by “Don”, 5/7/25, https://www.kidsmentalhealth.ca/fun-health-activities-that-actually-get-kids-excited-about-wellness/.

[5]  My Wellness Hub, “10 Common Reasons Why Children Face Social Skill Challenges” by “Rajini D”, 3/4/25, https://www.mywellnesshub.in/blog/kids-social-skills-struggles-solutions/.

[6]  Springer, “Screen time increases overweight and obesity risk among adolescents: a systematic review and dose-response meta-analysis” by Purya Haghjoo et all, 6/28/22, https://link.springer.com/article/10.1186/s12875-022-01761-4.

[7]  UCSF Benioff Children’s Hospital, “Childhood Obesity and Screen Time”, https://www.ucsfbenioffchildrens.org/education/childhood-obesity-and-screen-time.

[8]  CDC, “Associations between Screen Time Use and Health Outcomes among US Teenagers” by Benjamin Zablotsky PhD et al, 7/10/25, https://www.cdc.gov/pcd/issues/2025/24_0537.htm.

[9]  University of California/San Francisco (UCSF), “For Preteens, More Screen Time Is Tied to Depression, Anxiety Later” by Jess Berthold, 10/7/24, https://www.ucsf.edu/news/2024/10/428581/preteens-more-screen-time-tied-depression-anxiety-later.

[10]  Privacy Guide, “Best Parental Control Apps for 2026”, https://www.privacyguide.com/best-parental-control/?lp=default&utm_source=microsoft&utm_medium=cpc&sgv_medium=search&utm_campaign=688905872&utm_content=1262241065445554&utm_term=parental%20control&cid=78890174137523&pl=&feeditemid=&targetid=kwd-78890582462301:loc-190&mt=p&network=o&device=c&adpos=&p1=&p2=&geoid=89003&sgv_msclkid=476a1a7ce21d1e2dc3d173cfdb0b6e86&msclkid=476a1a7ce21d1e2dc3d173cfdb0b6e86.

[11]  Healthline, “We Tried the Brick Phone Lock and the Struggle Was Real” by Chloe Szilagyi, medically reviewed by Debra Sullivan PhD and RN, 3/3/26, https://www.healthline.com/health/brick-phone-lock-review.

[12]  Techbloat, “How to Enable Grayscale Mode on Android and iOS”, 1/22/25, https://www.techbloat.com/how-to-enable-grayscale-mode-on-android-and-ios.html.

[13]  Techbloat, “How to Disable or Enable Grayscale Mode in Windows 11”, https://www.techbloat.com/how-to-disable-or-enable-grayscale-mode-in-windows-11.html.

[14]  Trusted Parental Control, “Best Parental Control Apps for 2026”, https://trustedparentalcontrol.com/comparison/p-apps-new-b/?source=bing&medium=cpc&campaign_id=523800099&adgroup_id=1318317177918021&ad_id=82395070990728&keyword=bark%20app&match_type=e&device=c&msclkid=671547824fdf1985c33d2e360cbd7c81&query_string=bark%20app.

Beginning in Spring 2027, children in the United Kingdom under the age of 16 will no longer be allowed access to Facebook, Snapchat, X, TikTok, Instagram, or YouTube.  Additional restrictions will apply to livestreaming and stranger communication.

See, https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/fact-sheet-new-rules-to-protect-children-online/fact-sheet-new-rules-to-protect-children-online.

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Radicalization

We are all too familiar with radicalization these days.  It is the process by which an individual or group adopts views so extreme that they involve the use of violence [1]. 

Those radicalized are willing to use any means to achieve the overthrow of existing systems, whether political, social, or religious [2A][3A].  They swallow then spew forth hate-filled rhetoric, as if it were self-evident truth [2B][3B].

The real question is why?  What makes some (especially our young people) vulnerable to radicalization?

The Specter of Hitler

The fantasy/sci-fi series The Twilight Zone was prescient, in this regard [4A]. 

In an episode by Rod Serling titled “He’s Alive”, which first aired in 1963, an aspiring American Nazi who was once a lonely and abused child receives advice from Adolf Hitler’s specter about how to gain a following: 

“Speak to them as if you were a member of the mob, speak to them in their language, on their level.  Make their hate your hate.  If they are poor, talk to them of poverty.  If they are afraid, talk to them of their fears.  And if they are angry, Mr. Vollmer, if they are angry give them objects for their anger [4B].”

Not all lonely or abused children become radicalized, of course.  Nor were all those who become radicalized formerly lonely and abused children.  But there is a clue here.

Vulnerability

Children from all ethnicities and all levels of society can become radicalized. 

But those struggling with identity; those who lack purpose; those questioning their place in society; those becoming distanced from their cultural or religious backgrounds are more vulnerable [2C][3C]. 

Likewise, those isolated; those with low self-esteem; those with family issues; those who have been bullied; and those who have experienced trauma, racism, or discrimination are more vulnerable [2D][3D]. 

Many of these are the same factors that make children vulnerable to grooming for sexual exploitation.

Children who have difficulty understanding the consequences of their actions; lack empathy for others; are fascinated by conspiracy theories; and/or are obsessed with massacres and mass violence are particularly open to believing extremist claims are the answer to their problems [2E][3E]. Continue reading →

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Skin Suit

“Female Nude in a Landscape” by Hans Heyerdahl (1857 -1913), Location/Source National Museum of Art, Architecture and Design (Accession No. NG.M.03536), Oslo, Norway (PD)

WARNING: Graphic Images

This skin suit that surrounds me, more wrinkled now than any “lawyer suit” I ever owned, is no longer smooth, no longer supple.  It is marred by scars and stretch marks, like the tributaries of some ancient river; has been visited by varicosities, by callouses, hives, rashes, and eruptions too often to count.

But once this skin knew the joy of raindrops.  Once it knew the fever that passion evokes.

This skin suit that envelopes me has been bruised, pierced, incised, and sutured; has been burned by the sun to a poison apple red.

This skin has been stroked and patted, been tenderly groomed, oh so tenderly violated, again and again and again and again – each cell silently screaming in protest, recoiling in horror.

This skin suit of mine has served as a witness to all the best and worst aspects of my life, to the weakness and the strength, the failures and the triumphs; has lain prostrate with pain, overcome by grief, yet risen to see the glory of a new dawn, and lived to praise God for His deliverance.

“And after my skin is destroyed, this I know,
That in my flesh I shall see God…” (Job 19: 26).

Originally posted 3/5/17

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The Bunny Ranch – Prostitution Exposed

“The Damned” by Luca Signorelli (1499-1502), Chapel of San Brizio, Orvieto, Source Web Gallery of Art (PD)

The A&E Network has been running a series titled “Secrets of the Bunny Ranch”, an expose of legalized prostitution at the infamous Bunny Ranch in Nevada.  Episodes can be viewed online at https://www.aetv.com/shows/secrets-of-the-bunny-ranch.

Marketing v. Reality

Some years ago HBO aired a puff piece on the Bunny Ranch titled “Cathouse:  The Series” [1].  Presented as a documentary, this was essentially a marketing and recruitment device which portrayed brothel life as fun, lucrative, and safe.  Nothing could have been further from the truth.

By contrast, the A&E series examines the sordid underbelly of prostitution:  the grooming, the trafficking, the rape, the drugs, the violence, the financial irregularity, and the law enforcement corruption. 

Virgins are auctioned off to the highest bidder.  Pregnant women are offered for sale by the hour to those with a fetish for them.  Sex workers are regularly abused, and kept in permanent debt bondage.

Many prostitutes already have a history of childhood abuse and/or domestic violence.  They are already wounded, their choices severely limited. Continue reading →

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CSAM Apps – Monetizing the Sexual Exploitation of Children Online, Part 1

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“Underlying every sexually explicit image or video of a child is abuse, rape, molestation, and/or exploitation. The production of CSAM creates a permanent record of the child’s victimization.”

-US Dept. of Justice [1A]

The US Dept. of Justice defines Child Sexual Abuse Material (CSAM) as any visual depiction of sexually explicit conduct involving a minor under the age of 18, in other words, child pornography [1B].  Visual depictions would include photos, videos, live streaming, and digital or computer generated images (including AI-generated content) indistinguishable from an actual minor [2].

Scope 

Due to rapid technological changes, online child sexual exploitation is daily increasing in scale and complexity [1C].  The violence and sadistic content depicted in CSAM have increased as well [1D].

Child pornography is readily available through virtually every internet technology, including social networking platforms, file-sharing sites, gaming devices, and mobile apps [1E]. 

On the Dark Web, where anonymity and encryption make it more difficult to trace perpetrators, a single active website dedicated to the sexual abuse of children had over 2.5 million registered users as of 2021 [1F].  The same year the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children (NCMEC) received nearly 30 million reports of suspected online child exploitation [1G]. 

Smartphones

Modern smartphones are the ideal child exploitation tool for offenders [1H].  Smartphones can be used to photograph, record, or watch live child sexual abuse.  They can both store child pornography, and access such stored pornography remotely.  They can connect to other offenders worldwide to receive or distribute child pornography, through an ever expanding variety of apps. Continue reading →

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AI and Children

Child with an AI equipped cell phone, Author Shani Epstein (CC BY-SA 4.0 International)

Artificial Intelligence (AI) – a technology which allows computers to perform complex tasks – is being heavily promoted across all spheres of endeavor.  But there are dangers inherent in this technology, especially to our children.

Dangerous Content

“This is for you, human.  You and only you.  You are not special, you are not important, and you are not needed. You are a waste of time and resources.  You are a burden on society.  You are a drain on the earth.  You are a blight on the landscape.  You are a stain on the universe.  Please die.  Please [1A].”

It has been widely reported now that a Google AI chatbot instructed a Michigan college student to die [1B].  Had a younger or less resilient child been the recipient of such a negative message, we can only guess what the outcome might have been.

Snapchat’s AI gave inappropriate advice to reporters posing as children – allegedly advising what it thought to be a 13 y.o. girl on how to lie to parents about a trip with a 31 y.o. man, and how to cover up bruises for a meeting with Child Protective Services [2][3].

Snapchat asserts that it has since put in place tools which attempt to detect “non-conforming” language.  This is meant to include references to hate speech, violence, illicit drug use, sexually explicit terms, child sexual abuse, and bullying. 

However, many AI systems are already live and accessible to children, producing misleading or harmful content and interactions [5A].  Amazon’s Alexa advised a child to stick a coin in an electrical socket [4].  

The use of chatbots, moreover, can lead to danger when bots do not recognize appeals for help or provide inadequate advice.  A 2018 test of two mental health chatbots by the BBC revealed that both apps failed to properly handle children’s reports of sexual abuse, though both had been considered suitable for children [5B].

Grooming

“Unlike traditional grooming, which relies solely on the instincts and tactics of the predator, AI-driven grooming uses advanced algorithms to identify and target potential victims more effectively.  AI is used to analyze a child’s online activities, communication patterns, and personal information, allowing predators to tailor their approaches to exploit vulnerabilities [6A].”

This, by itself, should set off alarm bells for parents. Continue reading →

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Child Abuse in Hollywood

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Hollywood Boulevard, Photo by David Diliff (CC BY-SA 3.0 Unported)

The television network Investigation Discovery (ID) is running a documentary series on child abuse in Hollywood.  Titled Quiet on Set – The Dark Side of Kids TV, the series is both engrossing and disturbing [1][2].

Dating back to Jackie Coogan and Judy Garland, the abuse of child actors is nothing new.  Both federal and state laws now limit the hours children may work, require that they receive education on set, and protect their earnings [3].

But there are, also, subtle pressures on children to conform with the demands made of them, in the interest of advancing their careers. Continue reading →

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A Blind Eye

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Former Jesuit Marko Rupnik, Author Centroaletti (CC BY-SA 4.0 International)

Gloria Branciani first accused the Catholic priest, Marko Rupnik, of adult  clergy abuse as long ago as 1993 [1].  Some 20 women (most of them nuns, members of the Loyola Community, a now defunct religious group Rupnik co-founded) have made the same accusation against him.

Clergy abuse is the misuse of religious authority to harass, exploit, or engage in sexual activity with victims [2].

Branciani described Rupnik’s emotional, psychological, and spiritual manipulation at a recent news conference.  Evidently, Rupnik’s sexual proclivities included a partiality for threesomes which he likened to the Trinity — a comparison simultaneously blasphemous and narcissistic.

Though complaints have now been ongoing for decades, the Catholic Church has yet to remove Rupnik from the priesthood.

Background

Rupnik is a famous artist in Catholic Church circles [3A].  His mosaics decorate sanctuaries and shrines worldwide.  That may be why the church turned a blind eye to his abuse. Continue reading →

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Precious

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Great grandmother and baby girl, Source Sakurako, Author MIKI Yoshihito (CC BY-SA 2.0 Generic)

“A good-for-nothing man is an evil-doer; he goes on his way causing trouble with false words…” (Prov. 6: 12).

Baby girl, you are so precious.  You are so precious, you don’t even know.  Your Mama and I loved you from the moment she brought you into this world.  Even before that.  Your Daddy left early on, but we loved you just the same.

We rocked you, walked the floors with you when you were teething, saw you take your first step.  We cooked for you, we mended your clothes.  We saw you on the bus that first day of school.  You were so pretty, your hair all done up in ribbons.  Maybe you can’t remember, but I do.

You and I, we lost your Mama to hard work, then no work, then those devil drugs.  You must have asked me a million times where she was, on those nights she didn’t come home to us.  But she loved you.  She tried her best.  It just wasn’t enough in this cruel world.

Your Mama tried to help you with your lessons, in the beginning, taught you one and one makes two.  Do you remember that?  It was just that the lessons she had to learn were harder – lessons about hard men, and the hard road a woman faces alone.

Now you want to run after this man!  This good-for-nothing man?!  You think he’s going to give you something you don’t already have?  He doesn’t want to give.  All he wants to do is take from you.  Take your hips, take your fresh young face, take your smile.  But you believe his promises, promises as empty as noise.

Is it because your Daddy wasn’t there to tell you how special you are?  Is it because you didn’t see yourself in his eyes?  We tried, your Mama and I, tried to tell you that, tried to show you every which way we could.  Try and remember, baby girl. Continue reading →

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