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Pornography, Part 3 – Pornography Addiction and Sexual Addiction

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What the true crime series Lethally Blonde does not directly address is pornography addiction or sexual addiction, both of which feed the pornography industry [1].

Pornography Profits

There is a common misconception that if one does not pay for pornography, one is not responsible for the exploitation it supports and the harm it causes.  But — as discussed in Part 1 of this series — there is really no such thing as “ethical porn”, despite assertions by the pornography industry to the contrary.

Ad revenue is a major driver of profit for the pornography industry.  The more views pornographic websites get, the more money pornographers can charge for ads, and the more money they make.

The lack of age and consent verification on pornography websites has proven to be highly profitable for the industry.

Violence and Child Sexual Abuse

Pornography offers countless instances of filmed violence against women and child sexual abuse.  These include graphic images of rape, incest, and bestiality.  Some people will spend hundreds or even thousands of dollars for an adult video tailored to their individual tastes, however perverse.

Pornography Addiction vs. Sexual Addiction

Pornography addiction and sexual addiction are two distinct things [2A].  Porn addiction involves the compulsive use of pornography, usually online.  The behavior tends to be private and repetitive.  Sex addiction, on the other hand, involves repeated real life sexual encounters with others.

A. Symptoms

The symptoms of pornography addiction are, as follows [2B].

  • Compulsive and/or excessive porn use with increasing amounts of time expended;
  • Development of “cravings”, i.e. the strong urge to watch porn;
  • Difficulty in stopping or cutting back on porn;
  • Use of porn to cope with stress, boredom, and/or other emotions;
  • Secrecy around device use;
  • Loss of interest in real-life intimacy; and
  • Guilt or shame after use.

Significantly, pornography can sometimes be a coping mechanism for child sexual abuse survivors [3A]. It is, however, maladaptive.

By comparison, the symptoms of sexual addiction are, as follow [2C]:

  • Compulsive sexual behavior involving others, i.e. repeated affairs, “hook-ups”, or risky sexual encounters;
  • Preoccupation with sex and sexual opportunities;
  • Difficulty controlling sexual urges;
  • Escalation to riskier behaviors over time;
  • Lying to partners or loved ones;
  • Relationship conflict related to trust issues; and
  • Emotional distress or shame after sexual encounters.

B. Impact

Overloading the brain’s pleasure circuits can lead to structural, functional, and molecular changes in the prefrontal cortex (the seat of emotional regulation, self-control, decision making, planning, and ultimately morality) [5][6][7].

Porn addiction results in decreased sexual satisfaction, and increased emotional numbness [2D]. Porn addiction has been linked to higher rates of suicidal thoughts [8].  Yet, fewer than 1/3 of young people believe that pornography is bad for society [3B]. 

Sexual addiction results in severe relationship damage, and workplace or legal consequence [2E].

C. Remedy

The answer to porn addiction lies in identifying triggers and changing the habits related to porn use; reduced access to porn; and development of alternative coping skills [2F].  Therapy focused on impulse control can be helpful. 

Sex addiction, on the other hand, requires intensive therapy; an accountability structure; and relationship counseling [2G].

Reclaim Sexual Health https://www.reclaimsexualhealth.com/ is an anonymous online recovery program offering science-based Christian resources for those seeking to overcome pornography and/or sexual addiction [4]. Navigate Betrayal https://www.reclaimsexualhealth.com/ is the related program for the partners and spouses of pornography and/or sex addicts.

Biblical View

For this is the will of God, your sanctification:  that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God” (1 Thess. 4: 3-5).

Scripture emphasizes that our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit (1 Cor. 6: 19-20).  Purity plays a key role in a life that is pleasing to God.  The lusts of the flesh are not of God (1 John 2: 15-17).  We are, therefore, to flee from temptation (1 Cor. 10: 13). 

This is not, however, a simple matter of will power.  Rather, we are to renew our minds by immersing ourselves in the word of God (Rom. 12: 1).  He changes us from the inside out.

[1]  National Center on Sexual Exploitation, “Inside the Pornography Industry’s Profit Model:  Ads, Addiction, and Abuse” by Stephen Trendell, 8/20/25, https://endsexualexploitation.org/articles/inside-the-pornography-industrys-profit-model-ads-addiction-and-abuse/.

[2A through 2G]  Porn Addiction, “What’s the Difference Between Porn Addiction and Sex Addiction?”, 1/28/26, https://www.pornaddiction.org/porn-addiction-vs-sex-addiction/.

[3A and 3B]  Mission Network News, “Addiction, the ‘p-word’, and childhood abuse” by Katey Hearth, 5/2/24, https://www.mnnonline.org/news/addiction-the-p-word-and-childhood-abuse/.

[4] EWTN On Demand, “Bruce and Jeannie Hannemann: Hope in Living with an Addiction”, https://ondemand.ewtn.com/Home/Play/en/PWS17009.

[5] Mental Health, “The Brains of Porn Addicts” by Lesley Wirth (medically reviewed by Jesse Hanson PhD), 6/4/26, https://www.mentalhealth.com/library/the-brains-of-porn-addicts.

[6] Frontiers, “Disrupted synapses: prefrontal cortex-reward circuit dysfunction in stress-induced depression-like behaviors” by Ashraf Mahmud and Mehmet Karaman, 5/19/26, https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/cellular-neuroscience/articles/10.3389/fncel.2026.1843871/full.

[7] Wikipedia, “Neuromorality”, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neuromorality.

[8] Your Brain on Porn, “Problematic pornography use and suicidal thoughts:  Results from cross-sectional and longitudinal analyses” by JS McGraw et al, 2024, https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/problematic-pornography-use-and-suicidal-thoughts-results-from-cross-sectional-and-longitudinal-analyses/.

Parts 1 and 2 in this series were posted 7/12 and 7/19/26, respectively

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Pornography, Part 2 – Adult Film Stars

Adult Film Star Jaimee Foxworth, Source PacificProDigital, Author Glenn Francis, (CC BY-Sa 2.5 Generic, and 1.0 Generic)

What the true crime series Lethally Blonde so clearly illustrates is that the pornography industry destroys lives.  Promising fame and fortune, always on the lookout for fresh bodies to be exploited, the pornography industry eats people up then spits them out. 

The industry markets itself as a liberating way to express sexuality, the source of a glamorous lifestyle, a means of gaining attention, and a path to easy riches. In reality, the emotional toll of sex work — on screen or off — is devastating. Drug abuse and suicide are common.

Aubrey Gold

Lauren Kay Wambles a/k/a Aubrey Gold is an example of this [1][2][3].  The daughter of an exotic dancer, Gold was born in a small Bible Belt town in Alabama, but left home at age 18 to pursue a career in the adult film industry. 

After 2 years and over 30 films, she had earned a mere $50,000.  In 2020, she pleaded no contest to a charge of accessory after the fact to second degree murder, and was sentenced to 10 years.

Timothy Boham

Timothy Boham is another example [4].  Raised in an alcoholic household and bullied as a child, Boham initially found employment as a catalog model.  He then took up exotic dancing, in the hope this would lead to a film career. 

Boham, who viewed himself as heterosexual, moved from that into what is termed “gay for pay” — first providing homosexual sex to men who supported him financially, then homosexual sex on screen. He kept information about all this from his family of origin in Colorado.

When Boham attempted to seek employment outside the porn industry and start a family of his own, he was extorted by someone who knew about his double life.  That led to the murder for which Boham is serving a life sentence in a women’s prison, since he now considers himself a woman.

Jaimee Foxworth

Before her entry into adult films, Jaimee Foxworth was best known for her role as Judy Winslow on the ABC sitcom Family Matters [5].  Making pornographic films under the pseudonym “Crave”, Foxworth has battled substance abuse and depression.

Dan Benson

Chasing fame but unable to find work as an actor once he reached adulthood, former child star Dan Benson who played Zeke Beakerman on the Disney Channel’s Wizards of Waverly became an adult film star [6].  Like Courtney Clenney, Benson has an OnlyFans account with explicit sexual content.

Maitland Ward

Benson is not the only Disney star to have followed this course.  Maitland Ward, who played Rachel McGuire in the series Boy Meets World, claims to have gained respect, in the process of pursuing an adult film career [7]. 

If so, she is one of very few who can say that.  Many more fall prey to drugs, in an effort to cope with the emotions their work engenders [8A].  One psychoanalyst told the British media outlet UNILAD that almost 90% of women want to leave sex work, with up to 70% suffering from PTSD [8B].

[1]  The City Celeb, “Aubrey Gold Biography:  Controversy, Net Worth, Age, Movies, Wikipedia, Height, Boyfriend, Arrest, Instagram” by Haruna Ayuba, 5/28/26,   https://www.thecityceleb.com/biography/celebrity/actress/aubrey-gold-biography-controversy-net-worth-age-movies-wikipedia-height-boyfriend-arrest-instagram/.

[2]  Law & Crime, “Ex-Porn Star Gets 10 Years in Prison for Her Role in Murder of Alabama Man Shot in Head and Buried in ‘Shallow Grave’” by Jerry Lambe, 10/19/21, https://lawandcrime.com/crime/ex-porn-star-gets-10-years-in-prison-for-her-role-in-murder-of-alabama-man-shot-in-head-and-buried-in-shallow-grave/.

[3]  Podtail, Crime, Killers, Cults, and Beer, “114 Aubrey Gold:  Porn Star Involved with Murder + Discussion on the Porn Industry”, 6/13/24, https://podtail.com/podcast/crimes-killers-cults-and-beer-a-true-crime-podcast/114-aubrey-gold-porn-star-involved-with-murder-dis/.

[4]  Wikipedia, “Timothy J. Boham”, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Timothy_J._Boham.

[5]  Wikipedia, “Jaimee Foxworth”, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jaimee_Foxworth.

[6]  Entertainment News, “How Former Disney Star Fell into Porn”, https://www.news.com.au/entertainment/celebrity-life/how-former-disney-child-star-fell-into-porn/news-story/3b360f8fec4c5ee0f9e4b6ae86391536.

[7]  Style, “Former Disney star turned porn star says she’s more respected now”, 3/17/25, https://style.news.am/eng/news/106810/former-disney-star-turned-porn-star-says-shes-more-respected-now.html

[8A and 8B]  The Mirror, “Dark side of adult industry – ‘emotionally broken’ performer to ‘paralyzed’ star” by Liam Mcinerney, 2/15/25, https://www.themirror.com/entertainment/dark-side-adult-industry-emotionally-945510.

This series concludes next week with Part 3 – Pornography Addiction and Sexual Addiction

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Pornography, Part 1 – Influencers and Content Creators

Lethally Blonde is a true crime series produced by Investigation Discovery (ID) and hosted by executive‑producer and former Playboy model Holly Madison [1].  Real life murder cases related, in one way or another, to the pornography industry are examined. 

These are sad, often tawdry, stories of lives that have taken a downward spiral into darkness.

Pornography and Sex Trafficking

Pornography and sex trafficking are closely intertwined. The average age of entry into pornography or prostitution is between 12 and 14 years [11].

Individuals may be recorded without their consent, frequently during instances of sexual violence [12].  They may be manipulated or coerced into performing sexual acts against their will. They may be misled about the nature of a scene or threatened with blacklisting in the film industry, if they do not comply.

Sexual Exploitation and Lies

While Lethally Blonde does not moralize – far from that – it documents in graphic detail the devastating consequences of sexual exploitation as a form of entertainment.

Intentionally or not, four lies are repeatedly exposed by the series: 

  • that sex is a mere commodity, unrelated to emotion;
  • that the sale of sex is a legitimate and painless way of accumulating wealth and fame;
  • that wealth and fame are synonymous with happiness; and
  • that on screen and online performances reflect reality.

Some of us may consider these lies so obvious they do not need discussion.  However, our young people are being fed them daily.  A few statistics should drive this point home. 

Pornography in the United States

In the 21st Century, pornography has been mainstreamed with pornographers now innocuously called “content creators” [3]. 

Several studies have confirmed that the United States is the largest producer of pornography in the world [2A].  Sources quoted by Forbes put the revenue generated from video networks and pay-per-view movies on cable and satellite, websites, in-room hotel movies, phone sex, sex toys, and magazines at between $2.6 and $3.9 billion [2B]. 

A 2023 survey by Common Sense Media of 1,300 teens ages 13 y.o. to 17 y.o. found that 73% watched online pornography [4]. This is far from harmless. 

Parallels may well exist between underage pornography exposure and child sexual abuse (either reinforcing the later consumption of pornography as an adult, manifesting as sexual coercion in the attempt to reconcile conflicting emotions from such exposure, or manifesting as disassociation in the form of abject surrender to any sexual advance) [8]. 

Sex Influencers

Social media has become an integral part of identity formation among teens [5A].  Online “influencers” shape what teens think about how they should look, and what they should achieve – whether insofar as fashion, beauty, fitness, or lifestyle [5B]. 

Influencers can be especially powerful because they offer teens a carefully selected version of reality that feels genuine though staged for consumption, real-time feedback, and a sense of belonging [6].

So called “sex positivity” is one trend among influencers [9]. It emphasizes sex as simply a natural, healthy aspect of life without shame or stigma, and encourages teens to explore diverse sexual orientations and gender identities [10]. One has to wonder who is funding this agenda.

Sex and Murder

Courtney Clenney was one such influencer, an attractive teen who recognized that she could make money online by marketing her looks. 

Gradually, she progressed to nudity, and finally online sex on a subscription site called OnlyFans.  This produced tremendous income for her, and an upscale if degenerate lifestyle. 

Clenney is today charged with second degree murder in the stabbing death of her boyfriend Christian Obumseli [7].  She claims self-defense, alleging domestic violence although evidence strongly suggests that she was the aggressor.

[1]  Show Biz Junkies, “’Lethally Blonde’ True Crime Series Preview and Episode Guide” by Rebecca Murray, 3/12/24, https://www.showbizjunkies.com/tv/lethally-blonde-true-crime-series-preview/.

[2A and 2B]  Wikipedia, “Pornography in the United States”, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pornography_in_the_United_States.

[3]  Art and Popular Culture, “Pornography in the United States”, https://www.artandpopularculture.com/American_pornography.

[4]  Psychology Today, “New Report Finds Most Teens Watch Online Pornography”  by Thomas Lickona PhD, 6/1/23, https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/raising-kind-kids/202305/new-report-finds-most-teens-watch-online-pornography.

[5A and 5B]  Psychology Today, “Likes and Lies:  The Effects of Influencers on Teens” by Robin Sterns, 3/9/25, https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/power-in-relationships/202503/likes-and-lies-the-effects-of-influencers-on-teens.

[6]  Psychology Today, “Behind the Influence of Influencers” by Robin Stern PhD, 5/19/24, https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/power-in-relationships/202405/behind-the-influence-of-influencers.

[7]  MSN, “OnlyFans model Courtney Clenney denied bond; judge sets trial date for April”,  https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/crime/onlyfans-model-courtney-clenney-denied-bond-judge-sets-trial-date-for-april/ar-AA1SBRKa?ocid=BingNewsSerp.

[8] Frontiers, “Impact of pornography consumption on children and adolescents:  a trauma-informed approach”, 9/28/25, https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/child-and-adolescent-psychiatry/articles/10.3389/frcha.2025.1567649/full.

[9] Psych Central, “All About Sex Positivity” by Jennifer Litner PhD, 7/30/21, https://psychcentral.com/health/sex-positivity-meaning.

[10] Belessa, “7 sex influencers you need to be following” by Gabrielle Noel, https://www.bellesa.co/en/collective/232/7-sex-positive-influencers-you-need-to-be-following.

[11] Fight the New Drug, “By the Numbers: Is the Porn Industry Connected to Sex Trafficking?”, https://fightthenewdrug.org/by-the-numbers-porn-sex-trafficking-connected/.

[12] End Slavery Now, “The Relationship Between Porn and Human Trafficking”, 1/31/22, https://www.endslaverynow.org/blog/articles/the-relationship-between-porn-and-human-trafficking.

This series will continue next week with Part 2 – Adult Film Stars

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Children Molesting Children

Minneapolis SlutWalk Protesting Stigmatization of Victims of Sexual Assault (2011), Author Alan from Minneapolis, (CC Attribution 2.0 Generic)

A North Carolina couple are suing the Wake Forest Magnet Elementary School where they say their 6 y.o. son was sexually assaulted multiple times by a classmate, even after the abuse was reported to a teacher and the school’s principal [1].

We do not hear of the tragedy of child-on-child sexual abuse often.  But children do at times molest other children [2].

Force, Threats, and Trickery

Child-on-child sexual abuse is to be distinguished from the normal, anatomical curiosity of children.  It may involve physical force, threats, or trickery.  The victim may actually “cooperate” – not comprehending, by reason of his or her tender years, the nature of what is being done.

Child-on-child sexual abuse can, in fact, take place between siblings.  The victims of this type of incest may develop a distorted recollection of the violation (picturing, themselves, as the initiator or the sex acts as consensual, as a means of psychological self-protection).

Causes

A.  Sexual Abuse

Young children who engage in sexual abuse may, themselves, have been sexually abused [3A].

B.  Exposure to Sexual Activity 

They may repeatedly have witnessed the sexual activity of adults at an early age, and be attempting to imitate their elders [3B].  They may, for instance, live with adults (or teens) who act out sexually after drinking or taking drugs.  They may even live in a household where sexual services are bartered for rent or sold outright. 

C.  Exposure to Pornography

They may simply have been exposed to pornography, or confused and overwhelmed by the amount of sexual imagery on TV, in movies and videos, in video games, and on the internet [3C]. Continue reading

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Nudify Apps and the Road to Destruction

Actress/Director Scarlett Johansson, Source https://www.flickr.com/photos/15512543@N04/2185543324/, Author John Harrison at https://www.flickr.com/photos/15512543@N04/, Permission Creative Commons Attribution Sharealike (CC BY-SA 3.0 Unported)

A new word has entered our vocabulary.  To “nudify” is to use Artificial Intelligence (AI) to create deepfake images which appear to show the individuals depicted as naked [1]. Natalie Portman and Scarlett Johansson have been among those famously victimized.

Thousands of nudify apps exist to accomplish this, and have rapidly gained popularity [2][3].  Many work only on images of women.  And, as might be expected, many use social media for marketing purposes.

Thus far, victims have typically been school girls who posted innocent photos of themselves online [4].  However, anyone of any age can use these apps to convert harmless online images into what appear to be embarrassing photos and videos of children, teens, teachers, parents, police officers, pastors, or others in the nude. 

Once the nude images have been created, they can circulate on all the digital platforms commonly used for messaging today. 

Impact

Such images are often used as revenge porn with a deliberate intent of humiliating and degrading the individual pictured.  Whatever the intent, the impact on victims is overwhelmingly negative.  Not only embarrassment, but anxiety, depression, and suicidal ideation can result. Continue reading

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Lovelorn, Part 1

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Chocolate box (“OK, not exactly the gift…”), Author Chrys Omori (CC BY-2.0 Generic)

Society glorifies romantic love, but is rather harsh toward those who do not succeed at it.  The lonely.  The heartbroken.  Unfortunately, many abuse victims fall into this category.  Strangers to real love, we tend to stumble in our pursuit of it.

There used to be advice columns for the lovelorn.  Miss Lonelyhearts – a Depression era novel by Nathanael West about such a column – has been the basis for several movies, an opera, and a Broadway play.

There is still a great deal of poetry written about lost love.  Just Google the topic.

These days, anonymous sex and hard core pornography are readily available.  Craigslist has discontinued its infamous “adult” section.  But ads for prostitution (included among them ads trafficking children) can easily be found online [1].

While pornography and anonymous sex reflect on the decadence and dehumanization of our society, they offer no real solution for problems of the heart.

Relationships – challenging enough for non-victims – can be a minefield for abuse victims.  This is an overview of the problems victims may encounter with relationships and intimacy.

Boundaries

Having been repeatedly violated, we are likely to have difficulty with boundaries.  We are either wholly without defenses or guarded by high walls.

The first (a total absence of screening, since our childhood boundaries were so often ignored) allows others to take advantage of us easily.  The second (over-compensation, in an effort to protect ourselves from further violation) makes it hard for anyone to approach us.

Trust Issues

Consistency and faithfulness were not modeled for us.  We, therefore, expect betrayal; see enemies where there are none.  This can result in needless insecurity, jealousy where there is no cause.

Even the most loving partner will tire of proving his/her devotion in the face of repeated, groundless accusations.

But accusations need not be limited to infidelity.  We may experience innocent statements as hurtful or insulting; may strike out at a partner who is at a loss to understand what s/he has done wrong.  We, in turn, may be at a loss to explain.

Control Issues/Violence

Of course, there are individuals who are genuinely controlling.  Abuse victims may, unconsciously, select for partners like this – responding to what is familiar to us from our families of origin. Continue reading

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