We continue this series on abuse in Christian marriage with a few more of Satan’s lies.
“Abuse in a Marriage Is the Woman’s Fault, a Result of Her Sin”
Not only are women frequently blamed for the abuse to which they are subjected. A Christian woman may be told that, as a sinner herself, she cannot criticize her husband’s behavior. If anything, it is her duty to reform him.
While a clever way of shifting blame, this is circular logic. It has no basis either in fact or Scripture.
Abuse – physical, emotional, financial, or sexual – is a deliberate act by the abuser. It is not the woman’s fault, and not her sin. No one deserves to be abused – not a “witch”, not a “nag”, not a “pig”, not an “old bag”, or any other offensive term the abuser may devise to excuse his reprehensible behavior. No one.
True, a sinner will reap what he sows (Gal. 6: 7). However, it is the abuser – not the victim – who has sown the wind, and will reap the whirlwind (Hosea 8: 7).
As for reform, it may take criminal liability – if that – for an abuser to change his lifestyle. Continue reading