In the Aftermath of Abuse, Part 1 – Victims and Predators

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” ‘Take heed that you do not despise one of these little ones, for I say to you that in heaven their angels always see the face of My Father…’ ” (Matt. 18: 10).

Each year, some six million children in the United States are sexually or physically abused.

This 6-part series will explore the emotional and spiritual ramifications of abuse, with a view toward assisting the survivors of abuse and those who care for them in dealing with its long-term effects.

Those of us who have decades of experience with abuse and its aftermath are all too familiar with these details.  But for each new generation of victims, these truths must be restated.

It must be said at the outset that children are NEVER responsible for the abuse inflicted upon them. The idea of a “bad” or “seductive” child is a lie perpetrated by child molesters, a rationale to excuse their heinous actions.

Predators are often manipulative, convincing child victims that they brought on the violation; consented to the violation; will not be believed, if the violation is reported; will be sent away from home, if the violation is reported; will place their parents (or pets) in danger, if the violation is reported, etc.  Some of these same arguments are made to women by the husbands and boyfriends who perpetrate violence against them.

As a consequence, victims often experience a misplaced sense of guilt and shame.  This will be further discussed in our next segment.

Originally posted 6/30/13



Filed under Child Abuse, Child Molestation, domestic abuse, domestic violence, Emotional Abuse, Neglect, Physical Abuse, Sexual Abuse, Violence Against Women

18 responses to “In the Aftermath of Abuse, Part 1 – Victims and Predators

  1. Definite words of truth here. So sad. It’s amazing how manipulative people can be. Even now there are people who defend the manipulators and say they can’t help being attracted to the young.

  2. Great information Anna.. I pray it helps many who deal with guilt and shame..
    God Bless 🙂

  3. Reblogged this on Anchor Thy Soul and commented:
    Great post by: A Voice Reclaimed!

  4. It is a scary world. I taught my children and my grandchildren. Scream, yell and tell someone if abused, touched or scare. I enjoyed your words and thoughts.

    • Thank you for the compliment. It is enormously encouraging to know there are strong and loving fathers and grandfathers out there, looking after their little ones.

      • We must. We must listen to their words and thoughts. You are welcome Anna. All children should be taught. Michigan State is a prime example. 140 plus girls and no-one listens.

  5. Anna, your writings very much the lamp of knowledge- guiding, helping, directing those in need… a guardian angel for the abused. Clear, concise, exceptionally penned from the ink of your soul. I applaud you.

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