Child Abuse Myths

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Planting blue pinwheels during Onslow Memorial Hospital’s Guardian ad Litem Ceremony (2012), Source https://www.dvidshub.net/image/579653, Author Lance Cpl. Martin Egnash on behalf of Marine Corps (PD as work product of federal govt.)

The blue pinwheel is a nationwide symbol for child abuse, and April is Child Abuse Awareness Month.  The following myths about child abuse, however, persist [1][2].

Myth #1 Child Abuse Is Rare

Because child abuse is underreported, it is difficult to obtain precise figures.  Estimates are that 1 in 7 children in the United States experience emotional, physical, and/or sexual abuse or neglect.  Over 600,000 children are abused each year [3A].  Around 1,820 children died of abuse and neglect in 2020 [3B].

Myth #2 Child Abuse Is Confined to the Lower Economic Classes

Child abuse transcends race, economic status, and geography.  It has been present in every age and every society.

Myth #3 Predators Are Strangers

We imagine the menacing stranger in a raincoat.  But about 90% of sexual abuse victims know their abuser.

Across all types of abuse, about 91% of victims are maltreated by one or both parents.  Other perpetrators include relatives, foster parents, neighbors, and daycare workers.

Myth #4 Perpetrators Are Mentally Ill

While some abusers may have mental health issues such as depression, most abusive parents are not mentally ill.

Though pedophilia is still considered a psychiatric disorder, sexual predation in not excused by reason of diminished capacity on the part of pedophiles.  To the contrary, some psychiatrists now argue that pedophilia is merely a form of sexual orientation [4].

This blurs the line between illness and evil, a dangerous step toward normalizing pedophilia.

Myth #5 Children Provoke Abuse

This is blatantly false.  No amount of bad behavior on a child’s part justifies abuse.

Myth #6 Sexual Abuse Is the Most Common Form

Of the over three million cases of alleged child abuse investigated in 2017, 74.9% actually involved neglect.  Neglect is found most among infants and young children.  Caregivers fail to meet the child’s basic needs for food, clothing, shelter, social interaction, safety/supervision, healthcare, and education.

Myth #7 Emotional Abuse and Neglect Are Less Serious

Emotional abuse is associated with severe and long-lasting psychological/behavioral/developmental/physical issues.  But all forms of abuse include an emotional component.  While physical abuse may result in more obvious signs of maltreatment, the importance of caring for a child’s emotional well-being cannot be overemphasized.

Myth #8 A Young Child Will Have No Memory of Abuse

This is a rationalization predators often employ.  It is not, however, true.  Although young children may not be able to express the trauma they experience verbally, they are likely to recall that trauma and express it in other ways.  Repressed memories of childhood trauma can, also, resurface in adulthood.

Myth #8  Children Often Lie about Abuse

Less than 10% of allegations of sexual abuse by children and teens are false. Continue reading

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Kidnapped Ukrainian Children

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Ukrainian child’s drawing of a tank from “Faces of War:  The Human Factor” (2015 London photography exhibit), Author Still Miracle Photography (CC BY-SA 4.0 International)

The war in Ukraine is disproportionately impacting Ukraine’s children.  At least 30,000 have been kidnapped and deported to Russia [1][2].  Fears are that the number is far higher.  Russia is refusing to disclose information about these children.

This mass deportation is being called cultural genocide, a deliberate effort to destroy the Ukrainian people [3].

Russia’s goal is to brainwash and weaponize these children, who are apparently assembled in camps before deportation and pressured to submit [4].

Children are told by Russian teachers and psychologists that their families will not come for them.  They are threatened that their medication will be withheld, if they do not obey.  Some have even been placed for weeks in solitary confinement.

The children’s identities are erased, and false papers issued.  Russian adoptions are then arranged. Continue reading

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Male Sexual Victimization at Madigan Army Medical Center

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Madigan Army Medical Center (2007), Author Public Affairs Office Madigan Army Medical Center (PD as work product of federal govt.)

Madigan Army Medical Center at  Joint-Base Lewis McChord in Washington State has been the site of more than one scandal.

In 2012 the hospital was accused of reversing Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) diagnoses, in order to cut costs [1].  A nationwide inquiry was prompted [2].  In 2015, an operating room fire severely disfigured a toddler undergoing routine surgery [3].  A $12.3 million verdict resulted.

Now Major Michael Stockin, a 37 y.o. pain management anesthesiologist at Madigan, is charged with having sexually abused 42 male patients including combat veterans [4][6]. Continue reading

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The Mousetrap

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“The Mousetrap” at St. Martin’s Theater, London, Author Ji-Elle
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Thousands have enjoyed Agatha Christie’s “The Mousetrap”, the longest running play in the world.  Few realize that the play was inspired by a real life tragedy [1][2].

Fictional Plot

Set in a snowbound manor house, the mystery centers on the strangling death of a woman who mistreated the foster children in her care.  The principal suspect is one of those children, now grown and motivated by revenge.

Factual Basis

Because their parents were deemed unfit, England’s Newport Juvenile Court in May 1944 placed the three O’Neill brothers on whom the play is based under the jurisdiction of the Newport County Council [3].

In July 1944 the Council assigned custody of the two older boys — 12 y.o. Dennis and 9 y.o. Terence — to Reginald Gough and his wife Esther at Bank Farm in Hope Valley, Shropshire.  The youngest boy — 7 y.o. Freddie — was placed nearby.

When a short time later Terence was asked to write a school essay about his homelife, he said his foster mother was good and kind to him.  He said she bought him new clothes and gave him “lots to eat”.

But the name Hope Valley would prove haunting.  Terence later revealed that his essay was written under duress.  He knew instinctively that he would be in “huge trouble” if he told the truth.

Fatal Abuse

On January 9, 1945 Esther Gough phoned a local doctor to say that Dennis was having a seizure.  The doctor arrived to find the boy dead, a victim of severe abuse.  An inquest revealed that he had suffered cardiac arrest, as the result of a brutal beating.  The child was, also, badly undernourished, with painful septic ulcers on his feet. Continue reading

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Child Abuse in Hollywood

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Hollywood Boulevard, Photo by David Diliff (CC BY-SA 3.0 Unported)

The television network Investigation Discovery (ID) is running a documentary series on child abuse in Hollywood.  Titled Quiet on Set – The Dark Side of Kids TV, the series is both engrossing and disturbing [1][2].

Dating back to Jackie Coogan and Judy Garland, the abuse of child actors is nothing new.  Both federal and state laws now limit the hours children may work, require that they receive education on set, and protect their earnings [3].

But there are, also, subtle pressures on children to conform with the demands made of them, in the interest of advancing their careers. Continue reading

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Abuse at Elite British Boarding Schools

Charles Spencer departs for his first day at Maidwell Hall.

Charles Spencer leaves for Maidwell Hall, Photo courtesy of Charles Spencer by way NBC News

Princess Diana’s brother, Charles Spencer, has written an expose about the emotional, physical, and sexual abuse he endured at Maidwell Hall in the 1970s [1].  Titled A Very Private School, the book exposes the grim realities at one elite boarding school.

Clearly though this is not an isolated problem.

A Widespread Problem

“How I hated schools, and what a life of anxiety I lived there.  I counted the hours to the end of every term, when I should return home.”

–Winston Churchill [2]

A 2018 documentary “Boarding Schools: The Secret Shame” disclosed 31 separate investigations into alleged sexual assault at British boarding schools [3].  The suspicion is that there are many more such instances under investigation.

While it is a legal requirement for schools to report abuse, there is no assurance of compliance.  Because records are decentralized, even Britain’s Dept. for Education may not be aware how many schools are failing to meet standards [7]. Continue reading

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Alleged Trafficking by Planned Parenthood

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Pro-life graffiti, Stanford University, Author Suiren2022 (CC BY-SA 4.0 International)

Missouri Attorney General, Andrew Bailey, recently filed suit against Planned Parenthood for alleged trafficking in transporting children out of state for abortions without parental consent [1][2].

Investigation Results

It is against the law in Missouri to aid a minor in obtaining an abortion in another state without such consent.  An investigation revealed that Planned Parenthood regularly circumvented this law.

Staff would remove minors from school by using altered doctors’ notes.  These minors were then transported to neighboring Kansas for abortions, and returned without their parents’ knowledge. Continue reading

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A Blind Eye

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Former Jesuit Marko Rupnik, Author Centroaletti (CC BY-SA 4.0 International)

Gloria Branciani first accused the Catholic priest, Marko Rupnik, of adult  clergy abuse as long ago as 1993 [1].  Some 20 women (most of them nuns, members of the Loyola Community, a now defunct religious group Rupnik co-founded) have made the same accusation against him.

Clergy abuse is the misuse of religious authority to harass, exploit, or engage in sexual activity with victims [2].

Branciani described Rupnik’s emotional, psychological, and spiritual manipulation at a recent news conference.  Evidently, Rupnik’s sexual proclivities included a partiality for threesomes which he likened to the Trinity — a comparison simultaneously blasphemous and narcissistic.

Though complaints have now been ongoing for decades, the Catholic Church has yet to remove Rupnik from the priesthood.

Background

Rupnik is a famous artist in Catholic Church circles [3A].  His mosaics decorate sanctuaries and shrines worldwide.  That may be why the church turned a blind eye to his abuse. Continue reading

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Sisterhood and Sexual Violence by Hamas

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Graffiti by Grafitiyul and Guy Morad critical of women’s organizations which ignored testimony by Israeli women regarding rape and sexual violence during Hamas terrorist attacks 10/7/23, Author Nizzan Cohen (Creative Commons Attribution 4.0 International).

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The BBC in December 2023 confirmed that it had seen and heard credible evidence of the rape and mutilation of women by Hamas during the October 7 attack on Israel [1].

The overwhelming evidence of savagery included cuts, bruises, broken pelvises, and vaginal tears.  Victims ranged in age from children and teens to retirees.  The majority did not survive.

“[Many victims’ bodies were] found mutilated and bound, with sexual organs brutally attacked, and in some cases, weapons were inserted into them [2A]”.

The Association of Rape Crisis Centers in Israel has now gathered evidence that there were identical patterns of sexual violence at multiple locations [2B].  Some rapes were committed in front of family and friends, to increase the pain and humiliation of victims and their loved ones.  Gang rape followed by murder was not uncommon. Continue reading

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Compassion and Contempt

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Those of us who somehow managed to survive childhood abuse and/or domestic violence may actually have contempt for our fellow survivors.

Why is this?  Certainly, compassion would seem more natural.  After all, we know the pain of those who shared the same experience.

The answer is surprisingly simple.  We project onto others the contempt we feel for ourselves.

Weakness

They were weak, at least we think they were.  We do not want to be associated with weakness.  That might imply we were once weak, too.

It would dredge up the fear and vulnerability — the trauma — of childhood abuse or domestic violence.  It might imply that we were powerless in the face of abuse or domestic violence.  That knowledge is too distressing for us.  Better to hold others in contempt.

That we still have such intense feelings suggests we have not fully come to terms with our experience. Continue reading

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