Domestic violence has again been in the news lately. But I received the following response from an old friend, on the topic:
I don’t claim to understand the violence in society. I do know there are many men out there who are as outraged as I am. I am lucky enough to go to a church with many good men.
We have a monthly men’s lunch to talk and share stories. Guess who organizes this group?Don’t give up on us!Steve
With that in mind, I thought it worthwhile to republish the following post.
Despite what some women may have experienced, there are good men out there. The trick can be finding them. For that, we have to apply appropriate criteria [1] [2].
While this is not a dating guide, I offer you some of the Bible’s advice on the topic. The language may sound old fashioned, but the sentiments apply to our day.
A good man exemplifies integrity, both in his public and private life. This should be the standard women, also, demand of themselves.
“If I have walked with falsehood, Or if my foot has hastened to deceit, Let me be weighed on honest scales, That God may know my integrity” (Job 31: 5-6).
A good man deals justly with others, whatever their status.
“If I have despised the cause of my male or female servant When they complained against me, What then shall I do when God rises up?…Did not He who made me in the womb make them? Did not the same One fashion us in the womb?…” (Job 31: 13-15, 21-22).
A good man sets godly priorities in his life, actively living out his faith. This means more than his just attending church on Sundays. It involves forgiving others; extending help to the needy; and trying to do right in all things. It does not involve a pompous or superior attitude. Continue reading
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