Four month old gripping father’s finger, Author Clarence Goss, Source Flickr “Got You Daddy” (CC BY-SA 2.0 Generic)
- “Black Man Fathers 34 Children With 17 Different Women”
- “Man who fathered THIRTY kids with 11 different women says he needs a break from child support”
- “Man who fathered 23 children with 14 women sent to prison after missing more than $500,000 in child support payments”
Tragically, these headlines are not fictional . The problem of absent fathers is caused not only by the sexual mores now prevalent and the vanishing nuclear family, but by children having children.
“Fathers, do not exasperate your children, so that they will not lose heart” (Col. 3: 21).
The availability of contraception increased the number of teenage girls having sex, and pushed back the age at which girls became sexually active.
Lack of information about sex and birth control became less an issue, as high schools worked the subjects into their curriculum. Unfortunately, that did not address the real obstacle.
Condoms are readily available for purchase. But girls can be dissuaded from insisting they be used. The next girl will not be so difficult, they are told by their partners. In a world where sexting is a casual pastime, that argument carries some weight.
Needless to say, inner city high schools now come equipped with nurseries, while not books.
If nothing else, the AIDS epidemic should have frightened men into using condoms. Instead, in the inner city they began having sex with girls as young as 9 or 10 years of age. Since these girls were virgins (unlikely to be infected by HIV), the dilemma was neatly, if callously, resolved.
The well-being of the young girls in question did not enter the picture. Their desire to be loved actually set the trap into which they fell.
Impoverished, overlooked, and neglected, these girls suddenly basked in the attention of men anywhere from 5 to 20 years their senior. Willing victims of statutory rape join their numbers everyday.
Unprotected sex is the passport to gifts and status. Pregnancy is an achievement. A baby will provide unconditional love. So these children think, assuming they think at all.
Their naïve hopes are soon enough dashed. Rarely does the “honeymoon” period last beyond the pregnancy. Babies cry. They have to be fed, have to be changed. And diapers cost money. So do cribs, strollers, car seats, safety gates, and the rest.
Abortion is often used as a belated form of birth control, when romance sours. Grandmothers (when they are available) can wind up raising these babies . Continue reading