There are 275 references to mercy, like this one, in the New King James Version of the Bible :
“Therefore know that the Lord your God, He is God, the faithful God who keeps covenant and mercy for a thousand generations with those who love Him and keep His commandments…” (Deut. 7: 9).
If our emotions were not dampened by abuse – suppressed so that we could better endure the pain – we are likely to feel great compassion for other victims.
But abuse victims have difficulty applying mercy to themselves. We do not, generally, see ourselves as qualifying for pity.
- We should have known better than to be alone with our abuser…no matter that he was a loved one from whom it was natural to crave attention and positive feedback.
- We should have realized what would happen…no matter that we were too young to understand.
- We should have found a way to avoid the abuse inflicted on us…no matter that our abuser was an adult, capable of manipulating us and our circumstances.
- We should have figured out how to make the abuse stop…no matter that our abuser had all the power, yet showed us no mercy.
This is our thinking. These were our sins, sins for which we continue to punish ourselves to the present day. Some of us even blame ourselves for “causing” the abuse.
“Turn Yourself to me, and have mercy on me, For I am desolate and afflicted” (Ps. 25: 16).
But this thinking is flawed. And these were not really sins on our part. Nor were they fatal errors in judgment. We were children, with all the limitations of children. We trusted those who were supposed to protect and care for us.
If we hate ourselves over the abuse, blame ourselves, those emotions are misplaced. We absorbed them from our abusers. In fact, they blind us to the reality that we had no control over the situation. We were simply pawns in a game that allowed our abusers to express their twisted desires or vent their rage, at our expense.
Surely, for that we deserve mercy.
“I will be glad and rejoice in Your mercy, For You have considered my trouble; You have known my soul in adversities…” (Ps. 31: 7).
 Some may argue that a merciful God would not allow innocents to suffer. However, to ensure that, free will would have to be constrained.
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