No matter how far we may have come in our recovery, as abuse victims we retain scars. Many of us, for instance, are vulnerable to boundary violation.
Since our boundaries were not respected, the ability to defend ourselves (especially against someone who “should” be trustworthy) may be diminished. When that line is crossed – even in adulthood, even in a non-sexual context – we are often flooded with shame for having “failed” to protect ourselves…as if the fault were ours.
It is worth reminding ourselves that we live in the shell crater, the aftermath. The scars we retain are evidence of that – not evidence of our supposed defects.
But we need not let that reality defeat us. We have value and purpose. And lives yet to live to the fullest.
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