Christian Marriage and the Misuse of Scripture, Part 4 – Public Shame

Purple flag at Marine Corps Base Camp Lejeune, NC, in commemoration of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Source (PD as work product of federal govt.)

Women are often reluctant to make abuse public, as if their lives did not matter.  Speaking out about domestic violence, and seeking help for it, are said to bring shame on the family and the church.

The truth is that abuse starts an avalanche of harm that can extend for generations.  Whatever consequences flow from domestic violence, they result from the abuser’s actions – not the attempts by his victim to defend herself and her children, or escape the abuse.

The Catholic Church sex scandal illustrates how bad the organized church is at dealing with victims.  Focus Ministries is just one Christian organization helping the victims of domestic violence, while training churches how better to respond to abuse [1][2].

Though priests and ministers have endorsed them at times, the Scriptural passages keeping women in abusive relationships are taken out of context.  Satan uses these snippets – these lies – to undermine women’s faith, and destroy their lives.

But in Christ we are set free.

Stand fast therefore in the liberty by which Christ has made us free, and do not be entangled again with a yoke of bondage” (Gal. 5: 1).

[1]  Today’s Christian Woman, “The Silent Epidemic” by Corrie Cutrer, September 2004,

[2]  1 Cor. 6: 1-11 and Matt. 18: 17 address conflict between Christians, and the use of secular courts.  However, church intervention was never intended to shield sinful behavior, or place lives in danger.

Originally posted 10/4/15



Filed under Christianity, domestic abuse, domestic violence, Justice, Religion, Violence Against Women

8 responses to “Christian Marriage and the Misuse of Scripture, Part 4 – Public Shame

  1. Great post Anna.
    I do not believe God would condone abuse..
    1 Corinthians 13:6

  2. Thank you for this post!! 🙂

  3. Jesus acted on the belief that People were more important than the misinterpreted “Rules of Religion.” He said He was Lord of the Sabbath and healed and harvested on the Sabbath, because of human need and its higher priority than “Rules” and what the “Rule keepers” thought of him. Jesus said “Judge by true standards!” Who would take the place of a woman trapped in abuse? If you would not take her place, why are you keeping her there? Because Jesus said so? Are you serious? Have you ever read the Bible? “If the light in you is darkness, how terribly dark that darkness.” – Jesus.

  4. Great quote: “The truth is that abuse starts an avalanche of harm that can extend for generations.”

  5. Pingback: Christian Marriage and the Misuse of Scripture, Part 4 – Public Shame — ANNA WALDHERR A Voice Reclaimed, Surviving Child Abuse – silentcry

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