“Toxic People” by Pastor Dave Orrison

“Narcissus” by Gyula Benczur (1881), Hungarian National Gallery (PD-Art, Old-100)

Pastor Dave Orrison provides an excellent lesson (below) on the responsibility Christians have toward toxic people.  It draws a clear distinction between the charge to love others and the right we have to protect ourselves against them.

“What is a toxic person? A toxic person is someone who affects you in a negative way, poisoning your heart. In the presence of a toxic person, you become something you don’t want to be. You may be fearful, weak, angry, or even sad, but the emotions you experience will be inconsistent with how you want to feel and how you should feel in a normal relationship. In other words, a toxic person will damage you much like a poison destroys your health.

Narcissists are usually toxic people, toxic at least to certain others. Often through criticism, narcissists consistently bring certain people down. Sometimes by expectations or job requirements. Sometimes by gossip, or negative talk, or comparisons. Sometimes even by violent verbal and personal attacks. However they do it, narcissists bring people down…”

[Continued at https://graceformyheart.wordpress.com/2019/05/03/toxic-people/ ]



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6 responses to ““Toxic People” by Pastor Dave Orrison

  1. Amen. Fabulous link, Anna. Thank you.

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  3. HopeGlenn

    I disagree with every part of this.
    Toxic people are not just having a bad moment or a bad day. They are choosing with intent to be harmful and dangerous.
    Jesus tells us to flee from these people. To not have a drink with them. Or you will be known like them and become like them.
    I lost my children because I would not submit to my abuse.
    I am alive today because of my choice to follow God.
    Not to have patience with evil and hope it wakes up.
    This is sad that these thoughts are being put out there.
    So sad.
    If I was to do what this man states..I would be dead.
    Is that really what anyone thinks is right?
    God speaks very strongly about evil and so does Jesus.
    It is the removing myself from evil that has brought forth my strongest walk with God.
    And God states very clearly that you do not have to forgive unrepentant.
    I am stunned.

    • I am truly sorry to have distressed you. I wholeheartedly agree w/ your statement that God abhors evil and instructs us to remove ourselves from it. My intent, in circulating this article, was to confirm the right we have to distance our selves from evil, as a means of self-defense. The article, as I read it, recommends we do that (not the contrary).

      Forgiveness is a more difficult issue. We are called upon to forgive simply because Christ forgave us. This is what concentration camp survivor Corrie ten Boom wrote in The Hiding Place:

      “…I discovered that it is not on our forgiveness any more than on our goodness that the world’s healing hinges, but on His. When He tells us to love our enemies, He gives, along with the command, the love itself.”

      Forgiveness — for those who choose to take up the challenge — frees victims from bitterness, allowing them to move forward with their lives.

      That does NOT mean we must re-submit to abuse (whatever form it may take). Forgiveness does not necessarily restore trust, even when repentance is sincere. The forfeiture of trust is one of the consequences of sin for abusers.

      In an absence of repentance, hell is the other. God, Himself, will not forgive without repentance.

  4. Many good points. I would expand this by not limiting it to Christians all good people in the world need to identify and deal with Narcissistic people basically they are evil. Love is not one of their emotions as they are cruel and devoid of feelings. There is an excess of these people. Encountering these people has a bad affect on others. The affect can be slight if you are aware but more dramatic if you are not aware.

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