If you’re familiar with my background, you might think this is the website of a lawyer. But I was a writer long before I ever became a lawyer.
Before that, I was for years a victim of child molestation. That fact doesn’t define me. It’s just the springboard I’ve used to propel myself forward.
And that really is my point. We are, all of us, more than our labels, more than our circumstances, more than the pain we may have endured.
This website is a way for me to make that point, to comment on abuse-related issues, and to share my faith.
I hope you’ll join me…and find your own voice.
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really i enjoying with you by this golden word’s.. with my pleasure
Beautiful! We are more than our labels! ❤️🙏🏻
I used your line in Isolation and God “While the Crucifixion is humanity’s ultimate ‘No!’ to God, the Resurrection is God’s eternal ‘Yes!’ to us.” And cited your blog site as the source and your article too. I am sharing it in my facebook page Life Hub. Blessings!
Thank you so much, Deborah! That was very kind of you. ❤
“It has been said that if child abuse and neglect were to disappear today, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual would shrink to the size of a pamphlet in two generations, and the prisons would empty. Or, as Bernie Siegel, MD, puts it, quite simply, after half a century of practicing medicine, ‘I have become convinced that our number-one public health problem is our childhood’.” (pg.228)
Allowed to continue unhindered, such abuse will cause the child’s brain to improperly develop; and if allowed to continue, it’s the helpless infant’s starting point towards a childhood, adolescence and (in particular) adulthood in which its brain uncontrollably releases potentially damaging levels of inflammation-promoting stress hormones and chemicals, even in non-stressful daily routines.
A psychologically sound as well as a physically healthy future should be all children’s foremost right—especially considering the very troubled world into which they never asked to enter.
Nice to connect to you…
Same here. 🙂
Such a motivating post.
Thanks for sharing.
Thank you for sharing.
Yes, we don’t need to identify ourselves by labels. You are you, unique!
Thank you for your kind words, Nisha. I would add that we are all unique and precious in God’s sight. 🙂
Hello! I have just finished reading and commenting on your excellent post entitled “Palm Oil – The High Cost of Beauty”.
How have you been during your long Easter weekend?
I have stayed up till very late to complete some new graphics and animations plus more pertinent information for the special Easter post at https://soundeagle.wordpress.com/2015/04/11/easter-in-modern-multimedia-perspective/
You are very welcome to enjoy the extended and updated post at your earliest convenience.
May you find April and the new Springtime very much to your liking and highly conducive to your writing, reading, thinking and blogging about whatever topics that take your intellectual fancy!
What a lovely surprise, SoundEagle! I am always amazed at your talent and your generosity. I encourage readers to visit your delightful website https://soundeagle.wordpress.com/. I can never decide whether the music or graphics there please me more.
May this year be one of renewed hope for you, SoundEagle, and for the world. ❤ 🙂 ❤
Thank you for your care and friendship. I have improved and extended my said Easter post even more. There are some delightful surprises there awaiting your discovery!
Wow!! Better than finding an Easter egg, SoundEagle! It will give me great pleasure to check out the expanded post. 🙂
Feeling pleasure to join you🙂
My sincere thanks, Deepak.
Liebe Anna, Du bist eine wirklich großartige Frau, von denen es mehr geben sollte. Ich freue mich sehr, dass wir auf diese Weise in Kontakt gekommen sind. Ich wünsche Dir alles erdenklich Gute, liebe Grüße Marie
Meine liebe Marie, ich bin auch dankbar, dass wir uns getroffen haben. Obwohl ich mich sehr über Ihre gute Meinung zu mir freue, verdiene ich ein solches Lob nicht. Wir alle stehen vor Herausforderungen. Ich schreibe Gott mein Überleben zu. Deine freundin, A.
Meine liebe Anna, Sie verdienen wirklich jedes Lob dafür, was Sie leisten. Da Sie sich einmal für den Kölner Dom interessiert haben, habe ich jetzt viele Fotos zu einem Blogartikel zusammengestellt, damit Sie sich schon einmal ein umfassendes Bild machen können. Ich habe den Beitrag hauptsächlich Ihretwegen geschrieben:
Deine Freundin, Marie
Meine liebe freundin, Marie —
Deine güte überwältigt mich. Ich bin wirklich berührt. Sie können sicher sein, dass ich Ihre Website besuchen werde, die ich den Lesern von Herzen empfehle.
Es war ein Segen für mich, Sie zu “treffen” – auch wenn nur online. Ich wünsche dir alles Gute für das Leben.
Mit Liebe, A. ❤ ❤ ❤
Hi, my name is Fairy Queen, I write to you from Italy. I was an abused child, from 4 years of age a man molested and sexually abused me. I have been in therapy for 3 years, My psychologist was also a hypnotist but he could not hypnotize me because I risked an inner collapse, because I have no memory of who that man was, my mind has repressed the memory, and certainly he was a family person. And that revelation could have destroyed me. I’m not well, I also had breathing problems due to deformation of my diaphragm, because he was on top of me and crushed me. Nonetheless, I tried to have a normal life, even if no one had understood, from my drawings at school, that there was a monster in my life. I also had terrible nightmares and panic attacks, which are now rarer. Also after the abuse I no longer ate and they thought it was a disease and they gave me vitamins. No one ever understood why I could no longer put anything in my mouth. However, the years have passed and I have problems with anxiety, asthma, heart, physical pain, and many other problems that are the consequence of that abuse. Unfortunately I will never be able to have justice because many relatives have died and I don’t know which of them could have been. Therefore I continue my life in this world which is getting worse and worse.
Dear Fairy Queen —
My heart goes out to you. Many abuse victims are forced to forego justice in this world. Man’s justice is always flawed, in any case. You can rest assured that God will provide true justice in the next life, even if you cannot achieve it here.
But you deserve a full and satisfying life. That is possible for victims, even if their abuser is never identified or punished. Your focus should be on your own healing.
That you somehow survived despite violation at such a young age is an enormous achievement. That you managed to retain your sanity is yet another achievement. Your presence in the world makes it a better place.
I am so sorry to read your account of the abuse you went through.
No child should go unprotected,
Regarding therapy you had and being that you never went through being hypnotised.
Perhaps it could said and wise you don’t try such intrusion of your memory.
Why open up historic wounds? What you don’t remember can’t hurt you. What would you gain from it?
I relive often I wish that wasn’t the case. I now manage PTSD .
I too was an infant victim. I became a parcel to be past around through out most of my young life.
Up until l married, relationship building was always a challenge specially for my exhusband.
I hope you nowvfeel a little bit supported and perhaps we can chat in the future.
History ideally is best left in the past. What matters is the here and now for survivors of any kind of child abuse and severe neglect too.
I wish you find and make some happy memories.
The thing is, even though I don’t remember, I have a lot of anger and death inside me. The load of suffering and pain that I had to endure for so many years, I couldn’t talk to anyone because I was only 4 years old, it was very destructive for me. I managed to survive because I drew and then I tried to let off steam and thus communicate all my pain. But this was not enough. I still have problems interacting with people. I trust others too much, I have no barriers and masks and many take advantage of them. I have been used again by unscrupulous men. Every time I meet a man, that situation of me as a victim takes place and it doesn’t make me progress. For this reason I stopped knowing people, because I realized that I have no defenses and others always manage to hurt me and I no longer want to be destroyed by anyone.
Hypnosis could bring to light the face of my executioner and make me process the anger I have against him. But as he is a family person, this is too risky for me. I should try EMDR therapy, I am told it is effective. But for now I don’t work, due to the Green Passe rule here in Italy, and I can’t pay for the sessions. I hope this situation ends soon and that I can go to the sessions to get better.
Hi there, ive not been on here for many years. You sum up trust issues for many survivors similar to myself.
From one survivor to another im so sorry. I am pleased you found away to self express through art.
I try to write via poetry sometimes, to be honest i feel stuck unable to move forward. Perhaps possably punishing my self.
Any way l hope you’ve found away to trust a little. More to the point met people who dont judge and make your life worth while. Here if you want to write to me.
Hope you are doing well.
I’m doing mental health awareness reblogs.
If you want me to share your post on the subject, can you please suggest the one you would like me to re-blog?
Thank you and take care 🙂
Thank you for your kind offer. If you would, please, reblog “Wrestling the Python” which deals w/ depression. That post can be found at: https://avoicereclaimed.com/2015/11/22/wrestling-the-python/.
Thank you again.
I have already re-blogged this one. is there any other you would want to share?
I apologize for the trouble. You are welcome to reblog any of the following posts (all of which deal w/ mental health issues):
Depression Rules https://avoicereclaimed.com/2014/08/17/depression-rules/
Anxiety, Phobias, and PTSD – Part 1 https://avoicereclaimed.com/2016/11/06/anxiety-phobias-and-ptsd/
Anxiety, Phobias, and PTSD – Part 2 https://avoicereclaimed.com/2016/11/13/anxiety-phobias-and-ptsd-part-2/
Resilience – Part 1 https://avoicereclaimed.com/2020/05/17/resilience-part-1/
Resilience – Part 2 https://avoicereclaimed.com/2020/05/24/resilience-part-2/
Thank you again!
Please don’t apologize. it was very hard to choose one they all are so informative. Thanks for letting me share 🙂.
Thank you so much for these reblogs! It is my hope the posts may help someone. You are a blessing. ❤
Guess who I just heard from! Charly Priest.
17 min. agoCRAZY LIFE
Hello GP, this is Charly Priest but with a different account. As always a very interesting history, and if you were wondering why I went MIA of the wordpress community I just published my first post with this new account.
I was missing the wordpress community and although that I now have very few access to a computer is good to be back and reading all you people.
Thank you for sharing the information, GP!
I appreciate your vulnerability.
That is very kind of you. However, I think of it simply as sharing my life experience.
Ms Waldherr, it is, and has been an honor following you as you have given more and more people a voice, and/or the courage to stand up against what you and my Little Brother and I have stood against.g
You are very kind to say so. Thank you for speaking out against abuse. It is a terrible scourge in this world.
Thank you for all that you do. This gives me the courage to talk about ALL of the details of my life, because I should not feel ashamed for what I had no control over.
I wish there were more I could do. But you are so right. Abuse survivors were not responsible for the evils inflicted on them, especially in childhood. There is no shame in that. I hope and pray you are able to come to terms w/ what you had to endure.
Thanks, Anna. ❤